SX/SO 三号的本能变体（六）
一对一/社交
这个副型更少关注物质的收获。这个类型基本的恐惧是失去亲密的爱。一对一/社交副型，像一对一/自保，在他们的亲密关系中缺少信任。因为他们感觉不值得真正的爱，他们不相信任何人能仅仅因为他们本身而爱他们。所以，他们不停地努力奋斗，来抓住他们亲密人物的赞赏，并欺骗自己如果他们被钦佩，他们就变得值得被爱。他们通过精力充沛地维持自己的外表，成就，等等来做到这些。这个副型特别难变老。不安全感导致了一种持续不断的从亲密人物那里获得安心的需要，以确认性的语言或者共同度过的时间（将其他人排除在外）的方式获得。这个无法满足的需要常常导致强烈的嫉妒感，这只会使其他任何他们保持距离，因此（也许）错误地确认这种三号的基本恐惧是他们不值得真正的爱。尽管这一副型同一对一/自保有很多相同之处，当涉及意愿时，次级的社交本能增加了一种竞争的元素。这个副型喜欢被视为阿尔法男和阿尔法女（在事业、权势上很出色的男性或女性）。
当一对一/社交三更健康时，他们意识到这种竞争是不利于自己的。他们可以从这样的想法中感到安慰，另一个人的成功和得到的关注，无论如何都不会夺走他们自己的价值。
Sexual/Social
The focus of this subtype is less on materialgain. The basic fear for this type is loss of intimate love. The sex/soc subtype, like the sex/self-pres, lackstrust in their intimates. Because they feel unworthy of true love, they don't believe that anyone can love them solely for themselves. Therefore, they continuously strive to hold onto their intimates' admiration, deluding themselves that if they are admired, they may become worthy of love. They do this through vigorous maintenance of their appearance, achievements, etc. Agingis often especially difficult for this subtype. This insecurity leads to an incessant need forreassurance from intimates, in the form of words of affirmation or time spenttogether (to the exclusion of others). This insatiable need often leads to intense jealousy, which only serves to distance others from them, thus erroneously affirming the Three*s basic fear that they are unworthy of truelove. While they share a lot with the sex/self-pres Three, the secondary social instinct adds an element of competition when it comes to questions of desirability. This subtype likes to be seen as the alpha male or alpha female.
When the sex/soc is healthier, they realizethis competition is self-defeating. They can take comfort in the thought thatanother person’s success and attention do not take away their worth in any way.
